Moving to KatieHartMorse.com

Hi All!!!

I have been trying to keep up writing two blogs for too long, and it’s getting too challenging, so I’m working on moving all of my content on this blog, over to my www.katiehartmorse.com blog, and I’m merging the two! Please follow http://www.katiehartmorse.com for all things fitness // fashion // food // travel // life // love // inspiration and more! I just had a lot of overlap and it seemed silly to keep writing for both. Project Neon is still in full effect as the whole point of Project Neon is to inspire others to live a fun and healthy life! So, Project Neon will absolutely still be a part of KatieHartMorse, but move on over there to continue following along!

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xoxo!

Katie

Run When A Guy Says or Does These Things

In my 20′s I have learned A LOT through dating. I have dated guys anywhere from 3 weeks to 4 years. And every guy I meet has taught me a few key phrases that I want to point out. I’ve been “that” girl that sticks around and hopes and waits for a guy to change his mind, because I care about the guy. I’m often the nice girl, doing more, sharing my feelings, and hoping that if I open up and allow myself to be vulnerable he will too.

RUN When a Guy Tells You or Does These

The number one thing I’ve learned is RUN when a guy says or does any of the following:

1. Tells you he’s emotionally unavailable

2. Tells you “he’s not ready for a relationship”

3. Tells you “I don’t want to hurt you”

4. Doesn’t respond to a text message, email, or phone call within 24hrs (a friend of mine gave me this rule, and it’s kind of true – if he’s not responding, he’s not prioritizing you, or doesn’t care about you the way you should be cared for)

5. Doesn’t call when he says he’s going to call (unless he has a valid excuse) – this shows lack of follow through.

6. Tells you “I just want to be friends” – and you have feelings for him.

7. Isn’t making plans to see you.

8. LIES. If he lies at all (unless he’s planning a surprise party for you :)) – run!

9. Tells you he’s seeing someone else or that he has a girlfriend – and you are interested in him as more than a friend.

I’m sure there are others. But, honestly, I talk to sooooo many girls who have told me stories related to one of these things, and they stay in it, hoping and wishing. Because the guy shows “some interest”, or tells you he “wants to see you”, or tells you he’s going to break up with his gf, or that he doesn’t know what will happen down the road, or that he cares about you, or he has feelings for you. It is soooo hard to walk away when two people do like each other, but they are just not in the same place. It isn’t too say that yes, maybe down the road you two will date, but if a guy tells you or does any of these things, save yourself the heartache.

I don’t care if he lives half way across the world. If a guy wants a committed relationship with you, or at least is interested in exploring the possibility of you becoming his girlfriend. He will call. He will not ignore any message you send him. He will make plans with you. I’ve also dated the guys who have turned into boyfriends, who do those things. And that’s how I know. It’s worth it to wait for the guy who pursues you and treats you the way you are meant to be treated. Don’t be afraid to tell the guy, I need more or that you want more. It’s okay. You deserve more. And he should know that. Does it suck if he doesn’t come chasing after you? Yes. But, don’t you want the guy who is? Don’t you want the guy who thinks you are the most amazing and special person in the world and doesn’t want anyone else to have you? Don’t you want the guy who gets excited to hear your voice and can’t wait to pick up the phone to call you when he’s off of work? Don’t you want the guy who’s making plans to spend time with you? Don’t you want the guy who tells all your friends that you are amazing, and who’s telling everyone how lucky he is to have you in his life?

That’s the guy I want. I have had guys who weren’t ready, and come back to me, and be ready, and I had already moved on, and the timing didn’t work out. I promise you, if you and that guy who isn’t giving you what you need right now are meant to be together, he will come back to you. He will find you. Pursue you. Be that guy who is calling you, and making plans with you, and telling everyone how lucky he is. So, don’t be afraid of the here and now, and doing what’s right for you, in the here and now. If the connection between you two is strong enough, he’ll come back. But, in the mean time if he says or does any of the above, don’t spend your time hoping and wishing that he comes around. Because honestly, he probably can’t give you a “by when” date. Because he doesn’t know. He doesn’t know why he can’t give you what you want. Honestly. So many guys I’ve dated, or guy friends of mine, half the time, they are dating a cool girl, and have no idea why they can’t take it to the relationship status. Mostly it’s because they want to keep playing the field, and I can’t tell you how often that guy ends up going after the girl he ditched to play the field. Too often. And often times it’s too late for them. But, what can you do. If they aren’t ready, they aren’t ready. I promise, you will be happier with the guy that thinks you are the most amazing person he’s ever met. Wait for him.

Eyebrow Experiment

Have you ever thought about dying your eyebrows? Or do you pencil them in? Or maybe you dye them already. Well, for the first time ever, I was pulled into a Benefit store and was convinced by a friend to dye my eyebrows AND get them waxed. I must also confess, I’ve never actually gotten an eyebrow wax before, and I’m 29. I’m blonde, what can I say? Nor, have I ever dyed my eyebrows. I have always preferred to be as natural as possible. I like feeling like myself, but I also like to experiment with different beauty tips, tricks, and trends.

I was pretty nervous sitting in the “brow wax and dye” chair, but I trusted my friend, and I trusted the girl doing my eyebrows.

Here’s what I looked like before:

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Here’s what I looked like after:

 

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It was kind of drastic at first, because I’m so used to pretty much not having eyebrows, the reactions so far have been split 50/50. Some people think it looks really good and it adds more dimension to my face, while others thought I looked younger and more natural without the dye.

Would you consider dying your eyebrows? Have you dyed them before? Which way do you prefer?

Here’s a comparison of me side by side. All I can say is, you should try it. At least once, and if you don’t like it, it fades. :)

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Left or Right? Which do you like more?

So, if you like it, how long does it stay? 4-6 weeks, just like how long it is probably before we all make our next hair appt. It also was $14, and if I got a wax too it was $33. Benefit does a really great job! I think I would consider an eyebrow dye and an eyelash dye next time I’m heading on a beach vacay, because it definitely would allow me to pretty much forget about make up, which would be nice. :)

Weekday Wardrobe

Here are this week’s outfits for work!

 

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Top – Olive & Oak (StitchFix) // Joe’s Jeans // Shoes – Steve Madden Booties // Earrings – Banana Republic

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Dress – Lilly Pulitzer // Shoes – Michael Kors // Earrings – Brighton // Bracelet – Francesca’s

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Top – Frenchi (Nordstrom’s) // Jeans – Free People // Shoes – Tom’s // Earrings – Bay to Baubles (StitchFix)

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Top – Banana Republic // Joe’s Jeans // Shoes – Steve Madden // Bracelet – A gift from a friend :) // Earrings – Claire’s

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Dress – Francesca’s // Shoes – Michael Kors // Earrings – Banana Republic // Bracelet – Francesca’s

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Flower – Was a gift from my mom :)

Happy Saturday!!! Hope you all are having a good weekend :)

xoxo!

Katie

Loving These Instagram Accounts

I can’t get enough of the following Instagram Accounts. Some are just beautiful photos, some are inspirational, but I LOVE having them fill up my feed. :)

Australia

This is a dream spot of mine to travel too, and so I just love following their Instagram account. Not only are the photos beautiful, but it makes me excited for when I will finally get to see all that Australia has to offer.

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Best Vacations

I mean who doesn’t want to look at dream vacations in their Instagram feed? I love being inspired and seeing photos from around the world.

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Daily Puppy

I could seriously take every single puppy shown on this account home with me right now. It makes my day every day to see these cute puppies in my feed. It doesn’t get better than this. I also “like” their page on Facebook.

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Pura Vida Bracelets

Not only do I love their bracelets, as they are beautiful, and they are made in Costa Rica, which is the first country I visited out of the states. I was 12. So, it holds a special place in my heart. But, their photos are also beautiful.

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Cuppow

I don’t know why this account strikes me, but they are so creative with their product, and how to make really rad photos. It definitely makes me a Cuppow fan!

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The Glowing Fridge

This girl’s Instagram account rocks! Not only are her photos awesome, and she makes rad recipes, but she is also from Wisconsin! :)

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Adorable Animals

Seriously? Who can get enough cute animals in their life? Not this girl, that’s why I’m sharing with you another awesome cute animal account. You definitely have to follow them!

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Mimiikonn

I can’t get enough of this girl. She is full of such positive and inspiration, and she continues to inspire me every day to follow my dreams. I just love her.

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I’ll try to do a post like this monthly, because I think it’s always fun to find new accounts to follow and see what everyone else finds fun to follow! :)

What are some of your favorite Instagram accounts?

Things Every Girl In Her 20′s Should Know

Okay. Cooking up a rockin’ dish, and taking sweet jazzy photos weekly is getting hard. I think I might do a recipe of the month vs. a recipe of the week. :)

So, I’m shifting Tuesday from Tasty Tuesday to Tuesday Twelve. Why 12? Because 12 is my favorite number of course. :)

12 Things

 

1. Dress to impress – Own your figure. Don’t try to keep trying to fit into those clothes you wore in high school, or “this will look better when I lose 10lbs”. The truth is, shop and wear clothes that fit you right now. I know I’ve talked about this service on this site, but I truly LOVE StitchFix. I LOVE being in style, but I also like having someone spend the time “shopping” for me. If you want to check them out, please feel free to use my referral code here.

2. Learn to budget your money – Seriously. I’d say one of the biggest lessons I have learned in my 20′s is learning to budget. At the same time, I say live your life. If there is a once in a lifetime opportunity and you don’t want to miss it, put it on the credit card, but then budget yourself after you make that purchase, so that you can pay it off. :) I like to use www.mint.com

3. Live in the moment, but plan for the future – Your 20′s is a great time to explore. If there is a cool job opportunity in another country or a city you have always dreamed of living in, do it now. Try new things, try a few different career paths, so that come your late 20′s, early 30′s you really know where you want to invest your time.

4. Own What You Want – Your 20′s is a great time to focus on you. Ditch the guy who is holding you back, or not giving you what you deserve or need. I promise you, you will find someone who is the right fit. It might take a few frogs to get to the prince charming, but you deserve the best! That goes for friends and career too.

5. Prioritize Your Friendships/Family – Your friends and family are always going to be there for you. Make sure you truly cultivate and nourish your friendships and relationships with your mom, dad, sister, brother, grandma, grandpa. They are always going to be the ones that are going to be there for you when the going gets tough or when there’s something to celebrate.

6. Take Care of Your Skin – I swear when I was 20, I did not think about my skin that much. I knew I should wear sunscreen, but I didn’t master a morning and night routine, until my late 20′s. I promise you it will pay off to use sunscreen daily. Also, washing your face in the morning and at night and using a moisturizer will do wonders for your skin. I wish I hadn’t always been so lazy to take off my make-up at night in my early 20′s. I know my skin would have been happier and much better off if I gave it time to breathe while I slept.

7. Take Care of Your Body – Establish healthy habits. Eat a balanced diet, that means indulge every once in awhile, but nourish your body so that it gets the energy it needs. Workout. Find different workouts and exercises that you love and do them often. Working out releases chemicals that make us happy. It also gives us confidence, and makes us feel sexy and good about ourselves. I love the quote “I want to look good naked.” When you look at yourself out of the shower, I want you to love what you see.

8. Accept What You Can’t Change – Your body is the way it is. There are things all of us “wish we could change”, but he truth is we were given the genes we were given, and all we can do is workout and eat a balanced diet, and beyond that it’s out of our control. In addition, you can’t change the people around you. This has been a tough learning for me. Sometimes some people or some situations just aren’t going to change. Accept it and move on. Don’t waste your time.

9. You Can’t Control Anyone Else, So There’s No Sense In Worrying – One of the biggest lessons I have learned in my 20′s. Everyone is in charge of themselves. In the end, we make our own decisions, so let go of the want to control people or situations or worrying about people or situations you can’t control. It is honestly the best feeling in the world once you let go and stop worrying.

10. Communicate – Become the best communicator you know. Compliment people, tell people times and dates that they need to know, so that they can plan their lives, speak up and tell people your needs, or if your steak was undercooked, etc. Tell people how you feel, so that no one is in the dark. Set boundaries. Set expectations. Whether in relationships or in work or your social life. If you are dating a guy, and you aren’t into it, it’s okay, be mature and honest and just say you don’t see this going any further. It’s okay! Not every guy you date is going to be “the one”, and vice versa.

11. It’s Okay To Say No – You don’t have to say “yes” to every invitation you are invited to. There are a lot of moving pieces in your 20′s, work, social life, relationships, family, etc. There is always going to be something to do. You don’t have to say yes to everything. Find balance. Take time to nurture yourself, just as much as you nurture other areas of your life.

12. Set Goals – Goals change, but it’s important to set goals so that you can always be working towards something. Set personal, health, and career goals. Update them every 6 months. It will give you a sense of accomplishment while also helping you create the life of your dreams.

What other tid bits are you learning in your 20′s or did you learn in your 20′s that you would want to pass on to others? What do you think people in their 20′s should know?

This Week’s Fitness Challenge Schedule

I’ve decided to create a weekly “fitness challenge” schedule for each monthly fitness challenge. Below is this week’s schedule. I’m going to try to stick to it, and I hope you all will too. Share your photos every day for the theme for that day using #projectneonaugust on Twitter and Instagram! You can learn more about this month’s August Fitness Challenge here.
Monday Soccer Game (Team Sports)

 

Happy Monday!

xoxo!

Katie

Quotes of the Week

This week has been all about continuing to live the life that I want. I often too easily mold to what other people want because I don’t want to lose them and I want to make them happy. I am learning that it’s important to listen to my own needs and understand them, and voice them when it’s really important to me. It’s important to not be afraid of conflict or afraid of what someone else might say or think. Own what you want. Own what you think and believe and what your needs are. And if someone or something isn’t stepping up to your needs, then it is a good time to re-evaluate that person or that thing in your life. This does not make someone a bad person, or a job a bad job, etc. It just might mean that it’s not what you need right now.

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So this past week, I focused on what my needs are, right now, in the here and now. What makes me happy and letting go of things that were making me sad, frustrating me, or consuming my brain because I didn’t understand. We can’t control anyone else, or anything else, all we can control is our actions and reactions to the circumstances around us.

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I’m ready to follow my dreams. I’m ready to be in a loving, committed relationship. I’m ready to live on my own, own a pup and a kitty. I’m ready to go on a solo adventure. I’m ready to try a new challenge. I’m open to life and experiences. I want to move forward with my life. I don’t want to be stagnant. I want my career to blossom, my relationships – both romantic and friends to grow and become deeper, I want to challenge my mind and my body by traveling and trying new things in new places. I’m not comfortable in the stagnant, at least not for a long time. Life is too short to just “be” or “wait”. I want to always strive to be better, do better, and continue to grow into the person that I’m meant to be, which is a wife, a mom, a grandmother, a full time blogger, an inspirational and motivational speaker, a health and fitness advocate, a brand ambassador for all the brands that I believe in. I want more than just ordinary, I want extraordinary. And while I strive for all of this, I will never forget to live in the moment, and love every moment along the way. Every moment is a gift, and that is why I want to make the most of every moment. I don’t want life to pass by and for me to say “what if”, or “why didn’t I?”. I don’t want to live a life of regrets.

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So, I’m focusing every day, every moment on what I need to do right now to get to where I want to be. Focusing on what brings me joy, and what makes me come alive, which is often connecting with like-minded individuals, inspiring others, and giving back the way I know how through kindness, love, inspiration, and motivation.

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Happy Quote Sunday!

xoxo!

Katie

Weekday Wardrobe

This week’s weekday wardrobe!

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Top – Olive & Oak (StitchFix) // Joe’s Jeans // Shoes – Michael Kors // Bracelet – Zad (StitchFix) // Earrings – Brighton

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Top – Skies Are Blue (StitchFix) // Blazer – Market and Spruce (StitchFix) // Pants – Margaret M (StitchFix) // Shoes – Toms // Earrings – Brighton

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Top – Tart (StitchFix) // Joe’s Jeans // Shoes – Michael Kors // Bracelet – Francesca’s // Earrings – Banana Republic

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Top – 41Hawthorn (StitchFix) // Jeans – American Eagle // Shoes – Banana Republic // Bracelet – Zad // Earrings – Claire’s

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Top – Pixley (StitchFix) // Joe’s Jeans // Shoes – Toms // Bracelet – Cindy Vega Jewelry // Earrings – Brighton

A lot of the items in this week’s Weekday Wardrobe came from StitchFix. If you want to try it out please feel free to use my referral code here. It will take you to a landing page, where you can sign up, and will tell you that you’ve been referred by me.  :) I receive $25 credit, and am VERY grateful for you using my referral code. :)

xoxo!

Katie

Things I’m Loving This Week

What I’m LOVING this week :)

1. Does anyone seriously ever get sick of puppy pics? I remember when I was growing up I had a HUGE poster of a yellow lab puppy on my wall. It was the cutest and it made me smile every single morning. Ugh. The day I get a dog, will be one of the happiest days of my life.

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2. I love this. I hope every day we all do something kind, but sometimes it’s fun to challenge ourselves to think outside of the box. Check out these fun ideas here.

 

101 easy ideas for random acts of kindness

 

3. Blueberry and Passionfruit Margaritas, say what? Yes! There’s one month left of summer and I want to soak up all that there is that comes with it! You can make them using this recipe here.

 

blueberry passion fruit margaritas

 

4. I’m loving all things braids right now. I have fine hair, so it’s not always the easiest, but if I could, I would LOVE to do this to my own hair. So pretty!

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5. YES please! I LOVE all things beach and ocean. This is so cute! I think I might get it. You can get your own here.

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6. I saw this and thought it was funny! I LOVE PUMPKIN. But, I’m not ready for pumpkin season yet. I’m still enjoying summer. But this is pretty funny.

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7. I think I need to go to Iceland. It hasn’t ever been on my list of “places to go”, but it just might end up on it with waterfalls and beauty like this.

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Happy Thursday everyone!

xoxo!

Katie